Have ever wish you could be that mom who loves all things crafting and being creative with your children? Do you wish that you were that mom that's more organized with the charts, calendars, and firm boundaries? You know there are so many types of moms. Have you ever thought about your type?
Today's parenting style is determined not only by what we believe but also by who we are and our upbringing as a child. As parents who have different personalities, we tend to parent differently. Understanding our personality helps us accept our parenting style and use our strengths while guarding against weaknesses. The Enneagram is one way to determine your parenting style and describes 9 types of moms. Take the test and then find out your biggest strengths and struggles for each type of mom. Which are you? I am a #2 Mom. But I do find strengths and weakness of me in all the 9 types of Mom.
Note: If you’d like to take the test, you can take one for free here. See below for how your type affects your parenting style.
Type 1: The Reformer/Perfectionist
This mom leads a well-organized life with tidy surroundings. She has high ideals, a strong sense of right and wrong, and provides her children security through well-kept boundaries.
Her struggle: She needs to make sure she’s not too hard on herself or her family and lets her children do things differently.
Regeana's struggle: I would love to be a well-organized MeMaw and keep well-kept boundaries but I don't and I fall short.
Type 2: The Helper/Giver
This mom is warm, empathetic, and likes to feel needed. She’s the mom who drops what she’s doing to bring the forgotten lunch and sacrifices her hobbies to help her kids with theirs. Her children feel loved and served.
Her struggle: She has to be careful not to become people-pleasing or resentful about giving up for others.
Regeana's struggle: I am truly a helper/giver. I have found myself at times being resentful of giving because I had lost myself in the doing and caring for others.
Type 3: The Achiever/Performer
This mom is self-assured and goal-oriented. One of her goals is to parent well and her children will have her full energy and enthusiasm as she helps them tackle a wide range of opportunities.
Her struggle: This mom needs to balance her ambition so her children don’t feel pressured and her family becomes exhausted.
Type 4: The Individualist/Romanticist
The Type 4 mom is creative, sensitive, affectionate, and empathetic. This is the mom with the glue sticks and glitter as she loves creativity in her home and children.
Her struggle: She can be melancholy or moody and should take care of her emotions so she can care for her family.
Regeana's struggle: With me being creative, affectionate, sensitive, I still find myself being moody.
Type 5: The Investigator/Observer
This mom is a thinker, researcher, and inventor. She exposes her children to great ideas, researches their needs and their world, and enjoys seeing them pursue learning.
Her struggle: Emotions are tricky for this mom and she should guard against detaching from her family’s emotional needs, especially in the baby and teen years.
Regeana's struggle: I have at times found myself becoming detached from the kids.
Type 6: The Loyalist
This mom is hard-working, responsible, and reliable. She creates a secure, nurturing home and is able to foresee and work through potential problems.
Her struggle: Type 6 moms can parent with fear or worry; she should allow her children to take acceptable risks when needed.
Regeana's struggle: I work very hard to secure a good and stable home for the grandkids. But I do find myself not allowing the kids at times to take as many risks.
Type 7: The Enthusiast
Just like she sounds, this mom is outgoing, upbeat, spontaneous, and loves the thrill of new adventures. She will play with her children and love them enthusiastically and optimistically.
Her struggle: She shouldn’t neglect the routine chores and responsibilities of home and schooling for her children.
Regeana's struggle: I do at times find myself neglecting the chores and responsibilities of home but never the schooling for the kids.
Type 8: The Challenger/Protector
This mom is straight-shooting, confident, and in control. She loves fiercely and will fight for those she loves. She encourages her children to take on big challenges.
Her struggle: Type 8 moms should manage any anger issues and ensure they don’t helicopter parent.
Regeana's struggle: I'm at times very far from being in control. I'm continually working on how to manage my anger issues.
Type 9: The Peacemaker/Mediator
This mom is an easygoing, accepting, gentle, and pacifist. She provides a warm, stable home without drama and is supportive of her family.
Her struggle: She shouldn’t strive for peace at all costs but learn to discipline and instruct her children in love.
Regeana's struggle: I'm very supportive of my family. But with me focusing on my needs, I'm seeing how I have strived for peace thinking that would help with the discipline and instruct in love. I'm working on how to instruct in love more than in harshness.
